Understand You Need To Take Action
Hearing that your spouse wants a divorce or receiving divorce papers is a real blow, but you need to move on and take action. How to stop a divorce depends on your unique situation and you need to put together a plan of action you can follow to convince your spouse to give you another chance.
Listen To Your Spouse
You need to understand why your spouse has decided to give up on the marriage. This might be the result of years of unhappiness or the divorce might have been triggered by a specific event such as an affair. Meet with your spouse so that you can talk about why they want a divorce.
Convince Your Spouse To Give You Another Chance
This is the hardest part of stopping a divorce. You might need to give your spouse some space and some time before asking him or her to give you another chance. You will have to convince them that you understand why they are unhappy and that you are willing to change and do whatever it takes to save the marriage.
Do Something Concrete
Words alone will not save your marriage. You need to show your spouse that you are willing to work on making things better. Show your spouse your action plan, start working on the things you feel are most important and apologize for the things you did if you hurt your spouse.
Rebuild Your Marriage
Finding out how to stop a divorce is only the first step in your journey. Once you have convinced your spouse that you can make things better, you will still have to find a way to rebuild your marriage. This is a process that takes time and you will find that the best marriages are the ones where both spouses constantly make efforts to improve things.
Give It Some Time
You cannot expect things to get better right away. Reach out to your spouse and let them know you would like to work things out as quickly as possible but it might be best if you spend some time apart.
This could be an occasion to work on yourself and to develop a more detailed action plan to save your marriage. Do not give up if you run into some setbacks or if your spouse is not willing to listen at first.
The key to stopping your divorce is to communicate with your spouse and do everything you can to show him or her that you want to change and make things better. Remember that saving your marriage is not something that you can do overnight and don’t hesitate to seek outside help.
Often a good marriage counselor, coach or marriage therapist can assist you with a perspective that is difficult to maintain when you are the ones experiencing all the marriage pain.
Please do some research of your own to find someone that regularly is successful in helping couples bring back their joy and save their marriages. If you prefer to work in person with someone in your area, be sure they are what I call a “marriage friendly” counselor.
I am now working online with couples from all over the world if you are out of this Denver, Colorado area.
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