Mutual Respect and Healthy Marriages

What does a healthy marriage look like to you?

Probably this could have a long list of answers depending on your own experience and history.

 

The first thing that comes to my mind is a basic level of marital satisfaction!

Does that mean everything is perfect and/or wonderful all the time? Of course not. As human beings, we are well aware of how far from perfect we all are.

 

Research is indicating that couples do not have to have the highest level of marital satisfaction to still consider that the marriage is healthy.

What we do know for certain is that healthy marriages are the basis of healthy families.

 

Respect is one of the main characteristics of a healthy relationship.

During dating, within friendships or marriages, when there is respect you and your spouse will listen and support each other in a non-judgmental way. The foundation is composed of a marital friendship and its ability to create positive feelings in non-conflict contexts.

 

Successful marriages are based on a committed friendship. Gottman’s research has taught him that the key to avoiding divorce is the way the couple treats each other when they are not fighting.

Especially when couples are new, finding a balance between time together and time apart, as well as how much your partner’s interests or hobbies become your own, is essential for a healthy relationship.

 

Mutual respect in all areas is integral for a healthy and satisfying relationship.

Showing that you value your partner’s interests is an important display of respect. It can help you both greatly. Additionally, remember how much your own marriage has a major influence in your own children’s lives when they come along.

 

When children are a part of your life, as wonderful as that it, it also becomes even more challenging to find the balance between alone time, couple time, and family time with the children. Each one of those times is so important. We cannot overvalue how much even a few minutes of focused time is within our relationships.

 

As you probably learned by now, each person “recharges” differently. Extraverts normally get recharged when with people so parties are fun for them. Some introverts find themselves very drained following time with people and just need some alone time to recharge their batteries.

 

At times it works out just naturally if you both have different work schedules and naturally either has time in the early morning or late at night when you do not have to answer the phone, the door or answer dozens of questions from the kids, etc.

 

It is important that we each grow in our awareness of what we need individually so that we can take good care of ourselves and respect the needs of our mate as well as our children for “down time.” Most of us overbook ourselves on a regular basis and then wonder why we are so tired.

 

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