How to Improve Your Communication Skills

If you want to live your best life possible, learn communicate skills

that are effective. When I am working in my office with couples, I sometimes ask, Is what you’re doing now working well?


Of course, it’s really a needless question, because if were true, they would not have called for an appointment. The truth is, in order to have a happy and successful life, you need to know how to communicate at work and at home.


When you learn how to properly convey your thoughts, ideas and

plans in the workplace, naturally you will get more done as well as be effective at your job.


At home, when you learn to successfully convey your thoughts, ideas and feelings to your spouse, children and other family members you will create a happy home life. This is assuming, of course, they are positive and kind. Remind yourself your bad mood is yours to take care of effectively without blaming others for it.


Here are a few tips and guidelines that will surely improve your communication skills.


The first tip is that you should become more aware of your current communication skills and take note of the ways in which you’re lacking. As you become more aware of yourself and the ways in which you communicate you will note whether or not they are successful.


For example, at work, if you are having problems with your boss and co-workers, you need to identify whether this is an issue due to poor communication. Also, if you are having problems with your significant other or children, then you need to see if bad communication is to blame.

Once you’ve become more aware of the actual communication issues you have, then you can go about fixing them.


In order to communicate better, focus on listening instead of

talking. Most people simply listen in order to reply and don’t even truly listen to what the other person is saying. If you find yourself doing this, put effort into learning how to actively listen.


This means that when someone is talking to you, you should try to not think at the same time they’re talking, but instead, truly listen to what they have to say. You should only talk when they’ve finished speaking and you should ask follow up questions to clarify anything they’ve said. By doing this, you will be able to understand what the other person is trying to communicate which will allow you to respond appropriately.


Another way you can improve communication is to stop reacting

negatively to whatever you are told. This applies both in the work place as well as at home or with your friends. Many people automatically react when they are told something that ignites their emotions. This is extremely harmful and can greatly damage your relations.


So, instead of immediately reacting when someone tells you something that can be perceived as negative, take time to think before responding. It can be quite challenging to do this, but it will go a long way toward helping you to respond appropriately, without lashing out and saying things that you don’t really mean.


One of the ways you can use to change this behavior is to buy time, as you sense your own upset response. You could say something like A.That’s hard to hear or B. Thank you for letting me know that or C. Let me think about that and get back later to look for some solutions


When you are able to come back with a soft or listening attitude rather than an angry and bitter one, likely you will be able to put together some workable solutions.


Are you willing to make an effort to develop better communication?

You will find it pays huge dividends both at work and at home with the people we say we treasure most.


When you are ready to begin this journey, please look on my website under the Tab Services & Products. Since this subject is so vital to our enjoyment of life, you will find some helps – both products and at least one or more FB or Zoom group open to you on this subject.  See the blog on Personal Development as well as the blog on Marriage.


You will be glad you did!  It’s hard to think of another skill more vital to your enjoyment of life!